I get this question a lot. ”So… how’s married life?” I often find it hard to explain, since I don’t go through my day thinking about how things are different now that I am no longer single. I usually respond with, “Umm… it’s good.”
Sitting down and thinking about it, there’s a lot that’s different about married life. To let you know, I have: lived in my parents’ home (20 years, baby!), in a dorm at school, and with four other guys in a house. Marriage is very different from all three of them, especially the last one. In fact, it’s kind of funny to think of how different living with four guys is from one woman. Here’s the breakdown:
Laundry: It was a glorious day the first day after the wedding that I rushed off to my Wushu class. I had thought that my workout shirt would be sweaty and smelly from the last class, but magically it was clean and hung in the closet. It was as if the laundry fairies had visited our apartment!
Cooking: Before getting married, I lived with Dan Matundan, a graduate of the Cordon Bleu cooking school in Chicago. The other guys liked cooking too, not to mention myself. I seriously gained fat and weight when I lived there (more on that later). We had food all the time. There were always leftovers, and when there weren’t there was someone cooking. We had meat pretty much every meal, and always extra.
Cooking for two is a bit different than for five. We eat well, but I notice that food goes bad in the fridge a lot more often than in the other house. On the other hand, I am eating less meat, more vegetables, and less overall.
Date Night Every Night: Well, maybe not every night. Not too much staying up late and talking, either. But, it is nice not to have to “go home” at the end of the night. Movie nights, eating in… I’m a fan.
Sex: Well, let’s just say it didn’t happen before and it does now, end of story.
When we went to China, our professor told us to take pictures, journal, and remember what it was to first see things. He told us this because we would soon take the differences for granted, and forget the differences. I think the same thing about marriage, remember the nice little things before they settle into regular life.
